Today is Father’s Day in the US. Falling on the third Sunday in the month of June, this particular day is for the fathers, father figures, and male guardians who raise, mentor, and take care of their children. It’s a day to commemorate their hard work, efforts, and sacrifice to make us into the person we are today.
Growing up, I’d never really been into Father’s Day as much as Mother’s Day. Maybe it’s because I felt closer to my mom than my dad, as my dad was working a lot more hours and further away from home; although he still came home every evening for dinner, much of his time was dedicated to work and more work. I also didn’t really see eye-to-eye with him on many things as I grew older, especially in my teens and early twenties; we’d actually argue a lot on even the smallest issues, with both of us being stubborn and refusing to relent out of pride. Not a surprise where I got my spunk from…
I think it was moving away from home for a few years that the relationship with my dad improved; I think being an independent adult and far away to have the freedom to set out my path– accomplishments and mistakes– changed us. I started to appreciate his company whenever we talked via online chat, and I even missed him. And I think he accepted that I was grown up and working to establish a career for myself that he stopped pestering me about things he used to bother me about, including grades and tests back in school. It wasn’t until around my mid-twenties that we actually started to get along, despite the faults and everything.
However, I think it was when my mom passed away in 2019 and him getting a heart attack in 2020 that my perspective on the relationship with my dad really changed. Thankfully, my dad survived the heart attack, but now I realize that life really is too short, and that I need to spend time with loved ones all the more. I worry for him sometimes, especially him being widowed and at home alone when I’m at work. He’s able to take care of himself, being healthy and having a few friends to hang out with, but I still am concerned for him. Due to this, I think our relationship is stronger than it ever had been before.
If you ever take away one thing from this post, it’s to cherish your father as much as you can. I can understand that some of you may not have the best (or any) relationship with your dad, and that’s okay, too. But it’s for those who do have a decent bond with them, or at least a father figure to look up to. Cherish your loved ones, and always keep them close. You never know when the day could be the last, and it’s important to make each one count.
Have a wonderful Father’s Day, and stay safe.
— The Finicky Cynic
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